relationship guide
and coach
Joy Hosey

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In these transformative times,
relationships are our greatest assets.

I believe that cultivating open-hearted, collaborative, joyful intimate relationships is a profoundly radical act. When we commit to shifting personal patterns that sabotage connection with our partner, we change not just our intimate lives, but all our relationships.  I hope you find some inspiration here to do just that.

May your life be blessed with deep intimacy,
Joy 

Is Relationship Coaching for You?

A variety of reasons motivate people to seek me out, including:

  • A desire to make an already-good relationship even better
  • A wish to get out of limbo in some area
  • A desire to communicate more lovingly & effectively
  • A need for a safe space to tell some difficult truths
  • A desire to shift habits that inhibit growth & intimacy
  • A wish to heal from past heartbreak

If any of these topics inspire you, then I may be able to help. As a Relationship Coach & Guide, my practice includes individuals, couples, and multi-generational family systems. Truly, everything in life revolves around relationship—whether it’s your relationship to a person, family, money, health, or your purpose.  Read More

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Joy has been a blessing in my life.

Joy has been a blessing in my life.  I have seen her on my own for individual sessions, as well as with my partner, and have seen my life uplevel in every way. She has an intuition as a coach that guides our sessions past the surface level conflicts to uncover the blocks preventing us from reaching our true potential.  If you have any inclination towards self-sabotage in your personal life habits or in relationship, I am confident that Joy will become your ally in navigating out of those unwanted patterns.

Michael Hodgin, Ashland, OR

Joy Hosey, Relationship Coach
2020-10-10T10:48:56-07:00

Michael Hodgin, Ashland, OR

Joy has been a blessing in my life.  I have seen her on my own for individual sessions, as well as with my partner, and have seen my life uplevel in every way. She has an intuition as a coach that guides our sessions past the surface level conflicts to uncover the blocks preventing us from reaching our true potential.  If you have any inclination towards self-sabotage in your personal life habits or in relationship, I am confident that Joy will become your ally in navigating out of those unwanted patterns.

I know no one better qualified or more skillful than Joy.

Joy is an extraordinary relationship coach.  Her clarity and spaciousness, combined with a fierce loving devotion to living truth, create the space for true transformation to occur.  The highest proof of her integrity is reflected in her own relationship, which is obviously sustained through deep love and respect. Joy is a great resource for both my patients and myself.  She is the only relationship coach/therapist that I feel truly wholehearted in recommending. Whether you are in dire need of a relationship overhaul, desire to deepen your already soulful intimacy, or need support to consciously uncouple, I know no one better qualified or more skillful than Joy.

Dr Ajana Miki, Ashland, OR

Joy Hosey, Relationship Coach
2020-10-10T10:49:56-07:00

Dr Ajana Miki, Ashland, OR

Joy is an extraordinary relationship coach.  Her clarity and spaciousness, combined with a fierce loving devotion to living truth, create the space for true transformation to occur.  The highest proof of her integrity is reflected in her own relationship, which is obviously sustained through deep love and respect. Joy is a great resource for both my patients and myself.  She is the only relationship coach/therapist that I feel truly wholehearted in recommending. Whether you are in dire need of a relationship overhaul, desire to deepen your already soulful intimacy, or need support to consciously uncouple, I know no one better qualified or more skillful than Joy.

These shifts have utterly transformed our relationship…

My partner and I began working with Joy at a point of extreme rupture in our relationship. She created space for us to mourn, grieve, and rage, while helping us to cultivate connection in those moments by using contexts through which we could take radical responsibility for each of our lives, rather than being at the effect of past experiences. Joy gave us tools to see how the patterns in our relationship were directly related to our self-relation and moves to shift when we notice going into those habitual states.

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~ Marika W, Massachusetts

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2021-01-01T09:26:25-08:00

~ Marika W, Massachusetts

My partner and I began working with Joy at a point of extreme rupture in our relationship. She created space for us to mourn, grieve, and rage, while helping us to cultivate connection in those moments by using contexts through which we could take radical responsibility for each of our lives, rather than being at the effect of past experiences. Joy gave us tools to see how the patterns in our relationship were directly related to our self-relation and moves to shift when we notice going into those habitual states. (Click here to view this testimonial in full.)

Joy is a masterful guide in the art of relationship.

With her support and leadership, we entered into a process to navigate what once felt like an impasse and create a vision for the next evolution of our partnership. We built the skills to serve and tend to our foundation and discovered new levels of intimacy. Joy brought care, accountability, and respect to the work, calling forward our individual and shared responsibility in creating the relationship we desired. Our lives were forever changed by this experience, and we continue to reap the rewards of the foundation Joy helped us to build. Thank you, Joy!

~ H.G., New York City

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2026-06-04T10:59:44-07:00

~ H.G., New York City

With her support and leadership, we entered into a process to navigate what once felt like an impasse and create a vision for the next evolution of our partnership. We built the skills to serve and tend to our foundation and discovered new levels of intimacy. Joy brought care, accountability, and respect to the work, calling forward our individual and shared responsibility in creating the relationship we desired. Our lives were forever changed by this experience, and we continue to reap the rewards of the foundation Joy helped us to build. Thank you, Joy!

Joy is both a counselor and a teacher.

I first worked with Joy after becoming aware that the same pattern had defined my relational life for many years. Skillfully, Joy helped me process and unpack the belief structures that had underpinned this pattern for so long. My work with Joy not only changed my romantic life but it also transformed every important relationship – making me more open, clear and in tune with myself...And she has taught me a system of relating that has become a new foundation for every aspect of my daily life.

~ Boyd Varty, South Africa

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2026-06-04T11:03:12-07:00

~ Boyd Varty, South Africa

I first worked with Joy after becoming aware that the same pattern had defined my relational life for many years. Skillfully, Joy helped me process and unpack the belief structures that had underpinned this pattern for so long. My work with Joy not only changed my romantic life but it also transformed every important relationship – making me more open, clear and in tune with myself...And she has taught me a system of relating that has become a new foundation for every aspect of my daily life.

We wholeheartedly endorse Joy Hosey as an exceptional couples counselor and coach

Joy has played an instrumental role in transforming not only our partnership as a couple, but also our roles as parents and co-leaders of our organization. Joy's warm and empathetic demeanor immediately put us at ease, creating a safe space where we felt comfortable sharing our authentic and vulnerable selves. Joy Hosey is not just a counselor and coach; she is a beacon of wisdom, compassion, and support. If you are seeking a professional who can help you transform your partnership, navigate the complexities of parenthood, or enhance your leadership skills, Joy Hosey is the trusted guide you've been searching for. With her expertise and guidance, you can unlock the potential for growth, connection, and success in all aspects of your life.

~ Jarrett & Jeanne Stevens, Chicago, IL

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2026-06-04T11:09:36-07:00

~ Jarrett & Jeanne Stevens, Chicago, IL

Joy has played an instrumental role in transforming not only our partnership as a couple, but also our roles as parents and co-leaders of our organization. Joy's warm and empathetic demeanor immediately put us at ease, creating a safe space where we felt comfortable sharing our authentic and vulnerable selves. Joy Hosey is not just a counselor and coach; she is a beacon of wisdom, compassion, and support. If you are seeking a professional who can help you transform your partnership, navigate the complexities of parenthood, or enhance your leadership skills, Joy Hosey is the trusted guide you've been searching for. With her expertise and guidance, you can unlock the potential for growth, connection, and success in all aspects of your life.

All of this in just a few sessions, not the grueling years one sometimes expects.

We went to Joy to learn how intimacy can create relational joy, teach us about ourselves in relationships of all types, and to clarify our intentions in the current relationship. She used a variety of tools and frameworks to help us see our attachment styles, personality structures, communication mis-matches, and protective mechanisms honed in childhood. More practical were tools for repairing ruptures and using the repair to build deeper trust and further intimacy. All of this in just a few sessions, not the grueling years of return one sometimes expects.

~ Carey J., Seattle, WA

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2026-06-04T11:13:49-07:00

~ Carey J., Seattle, WA

We went to Joy to learn how intimacy can create relational joy, teach us about ourselves in relationships of all types, and to clarify our intentions in the current relationship. She used a variety of tools and frameworks to help us see our attachment styles, personality structures, communication mis-matches, and protective mechanisms honed in childhood. More practical were tools for repairing ruptures and using the repair to build deeper trust and further intimacy. All of this in just a few sessions, not the grueling years of return one sometimes expects.

Joy is whip-smart, courageous, and deeply insightful.

Joy is whip-smart, courageous, and deeply insightful. She holds you accountable while offering tools to connect, grow, and navigate conflict. Her ability to synthesize information and offer perspective pushed us to see ourselves and each other in ways we never had before. Even now, 15 months later, we continue to seek her counsel because the growth she has fostered is transformative and enduring. I cannot recommend Joy enough for anyone seeking real, lasting change in their relationships and themselves.

~ Caneel R., Manhattan Beach, CA

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2026-06-04T11:16:45-07:00

~ Caneel R., Manhattan Beach, CA

Joy is whip-smart, courageous, and deeply insightful. She holds you accountable while offering tools to connect, grow, and navigate conflict. Her ability to synthesize information and offer perspective pushed us to see ourselves and each other in ways we never had before. Even now, 15 months later, we continue to seek her counsel because the growth she has fostered is transformative and enduring. I cannot recommend Joy enough for anyone seeking real, lasting change in their relationships and themselves.

An ‘Expert of Experts’

Joy is unique in couples coaching -- we consider her an 'expert of experts'. We've studied and experienced many of the so-called experts, who are excellent yet are one-tracked in their signature approaches. Joy, refreshingly, has it all: the dexterity to choose the best strategy to enable exploration of the given situation, and a remarkable capacity to go deep with us while teaching us tools to use on our own. If you're serious about connected and conscious couplehood, consider yourself fortunate if Joy is your guide.

~ Lauren & Brad, Los Angeles

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2026-06-04T11:21:14-07:00

~ Lauren & Brad, Los Angeles

Joy is unique in couples coaching -- we consider her an 'expert of experts'. We've studied and experienced many of the so-called experts, who are excellent yet are one-tracked in their signature approaches. Joy, refreshingly, has it all: the dexterity to choose the best strategy to enable exploration of the given situation, and a remarkable capacity to go deep with us while teaching us tools to use on our own. If you're serious about connected and conscious couplehood, consider yourself fortunate if Joy is your guide.

An attuned listener and masterful relationship coach

We felt safe, seen, and held in every session. She is an assertive facilitator who keeps the conversation on track. She’s hyper smart and no bullshit. We so appreciate what we've been able to uncover with Joy, and as a result, the closeness that we've achieved with each other. No matter how smart you are or how much personal growth work you’ve already done, with Joy you will grow and be challenged.

~ Calvin & Julie, San Francisco, CA

Joy Hosey, Relationship Coach
2026-06-04T11:23:40-07:00

~ Calvin & Julie, San Francisco, CA

We felt safe, seen, and held in every session. She is an assertive facilitator who keeps the conversation on track. She’s hyper smart and no bullshit. We so appreciate what we've been able to uncover with Joy, and as a result, the closeness that we've achieved with each other. No matter how smart you are or how much personal growth work you’ve already done, with Joy you will grow and be challenged.
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More About Joy

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Joy is passionate about working with people who are ready to drop their old defensive postures and willing to try on new ways of living and loving. She brings a depth of experience, both personally and professionally, to her relationship work. A highly-skilled communicator, she transmits her wealth of knowledge not only through words, but the fabric of Being that connects her to all life, including her clients. Unflinchingly honest, she allows her well-honed intuition to guide her work.

A true guide, Joy holds space for others to explore and express their own truth in a spacious, non-judgmental container. She brings a lovely balance of depth and lightness to all she touches. A big believer in results-oriented coaching, she has spent over 30 years cultivating mind-body-heart practices that she shares in loving detail with her clients. One basic premise of her practice is to “not believe what I say is true, but to try it on for yourself and check out your own results.” Play, awareness practices, self-inquiry and whole-body expression are integrated into everything she offers.

Joy has an extensive background in a variety of mind-body-soul disciplines. Formerly an ordained minister, her background includes leading peer counseling and support groups, coaching, and Enneagram applications. She is also certified as a Pilates Trainer, Breema® Bodywork Instructor, and Reflexologist. A space holder for the divine, she has acted as guide for many during transformative states of consciousness, working with plant and energy medicines.

Born, raised, and deeply influenced by the expansive beauty of coastal California, Joy now resides in Ashland, Oregon, with her beloved partner, Thunder. She considers him one of her greatest blessings and cherishes his presence in her ever-expanding life.

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