What Clients Say About Joy...
“We started working with Joy because we wanted to build a great relationship but realized that we had no role models around us. Joy helped us shift deep-rooted mindsets to make our relationship more joyful and easeful. She taught us tools on how to have vulnerable and sometimes scary conversations that would bring us into a higher level of relationship. Now we turn conflict into deeper intimacy!
“Joy is an attuned listener and masterful relationship coach. We felt safe, seen, and held in every session. She is an assertive facilitator who keeps the conversation on track. She’s hyper-smart and no bullshit. We so appreciate what we’ve been able to uncover with Joy, and as a result, the closeness that we’ve achieved with each other.
“No matter how smart you are or how much personal growth work you’ve already done, with Joy you will grow and be challenged. “
~ Calvin & Julie, San Francisco, CA
“Joy is a masterful guide in the art of relationship. With her support and leadership, we entered into a process to navigate what once felt like an impasse and create a vision for the next evolution of our partnership. We built the skills to serve and tend to our foundation and discovered new levels of intimacy. Joy brought care, accountability, and respect to the work, calling forward our individual and shared responsibility in creating the relationship we desired. Our lives were forever changed by this experience, and we continue to reap the rewards of the foundation Joy helped us to build. Thank you, Joy!”
~ H.G., New York City
“My wife and I are closing in on 25 wonderful years of marriage. We were referred to Joy Hosey a few years ago as we sought to make a great marriage even better. Any relationship requires investments of time and energy to keep the relationship alive and thriving. Joy Hosey is a wonderful guide and each session met us where we were at. Joy is much more than a coach; Joy’s wonderful spirit and presence enabled us to grow in ways we had not imagined. Joy is a joy, and we highly recommend her wherever you find yourself on this life journey.”
~ J.M., Austin, TX
“I first worked with Joy after becoming aware that the same pattern had defined my relational life for many years. Skillfully, Joy helped me process and unpack the belief structures that had underpinned this pattern for so long. My work with Joy not only changed my romantic life but it also transformed every important relationship – making me more open, clear and in tune with myself.
“Joy is both a counselor and a teacher. While working together, she has helped me gain new awareness and insight into how I bring myself into every relationship. And she has taught me a system of relating that has become a new foundation for every aspect of my daily life.”
~ Boyd Varty, South Africa
“I worked with Joy regularly over the span of about 7 months during a time of crisis in my romantic relationship. Joy was able to gently guide me on the path to learning how to identify, process, and manage my emotional state in healthy ways, and helped me learn how to communicate and express myself kindly and with integrity to the people I love. My experience of Joy during this time was as a guide and loving teacher, kindly teaching and advising – and as someone capable of firmly and gently holding me accountable and calling me out on my nonsense when necessary. “
~ J.N., Portland, OR
“Working with Joy has been an essential element in the transformation of my partnership with my husband. We have been married for 17 years and had very young and fixed patterns of communication that prevented us from sharing truth and intimacy. Joy helped us to understand ourselves better by exploring these unconscious patterns and behaviors, often stemming from childhood wounds.
“With her skilled facilitation and support, we were invited to slow down our interactions to explore where our reactions were coming from. We learned to tune into our somatic experience as the clue into our emotional body and trace back our response to particular ages or wounds that still drive our current relational responses as adults. She helped us see ways we were projecting on the other and encouraged us to take responsibility for our experience.
“Wow. I truly did not believe such a transformation was possible for two people locked in old patterns for over 20 years! We now prioritize truth above safety, security and peace which means being able to name things that may cause grief or pain in the other. We are building more confidence in our capacity to be with the other’s pain rather than avoiding conflict or saving the other from their pain. Our mutual task is supporting each other’s spiritual growth, which requires us to be impeccable in our truth and communication. We commit to presence and courageous work.
“I feel closer to my partner than I ever have as we continue to practice the communication tools to become more adept at speaking impeccably, and more savvy at detecting story, projection, etc.
“I am so grateful for Joy’s guidance. She has incredible intuition, skill, experience, knowledge and wisdom – courting us with deep love and compassion into the places where we hold fear or shame. I appreciate Joy’s background that draws from multiple traditions and disciplines. Her work is solidly grounded in psychology and self-accountability but she remains open, curious and humble. Joy has been much more than a relationship coach, but a beacon for us in dark times, a confidante when we’ve felt alone or scared and a teacher as we begin the practice of finding ourselves and each other again.“
~ Liz Strawbridge, Freeport, ME
“We are beyond grateful and wholeheartedly endorse Joy Hosey as an exceptional couples counselor and coach. Joy has played an instrumental role in transforming not only our partnership as a couple, but also our roles as parents and co-leaders of our organization. Her guidance and support have been nothing short of transformative.
“From the moment we started working with Joy, we knew we had found a true ally in our journey to strengthen our relationship. Joy’s warm and empathetic demeanor immediately put us at ease, creating a safe space where we felt comfortable sharing our authentic and vulnerable selves. She has an incredible ability to listen actively, helping us communicate more effectively with each other.
“Joy’s insights and expertise have been invaluable in navigating the complexities of our partnership. Her tailored approach to couples counseling allowed us to address our unique challenges and develop strategies to overcome them. She helped us rediscover the joy and connection that initially brought us together and helped us utilize new tools to maintain and nurture that connection.
“Joy’s guidance has helped us as parents to create a more loving environment for our children. Her advice on co-parenting and managing the demands of family life has made a profound difference in our ability to support each other and our children’s development.
“In our professional lives as co-leaders of our organization, Joy’s coaching has been a game-changer. Her insights into leadership dynamics, effective communication, and conflict resolution have improved our teamwork and decision-making processes. She has empowered us to lead our organization with authenticity and empathy, fostering a positive and productive work environment.
“Joy Hosey is not just a counselor and coach; she is a beacon of wisdom, compassion, and support. Her dedication to our well-being as a couple, as parents, and as leaders has been unwavering. We cannot express enough gratitude for the positive impact she has had on our lives.
“If you are seeking a professional who can help you transform your partnership, navigate the complexities of parenthood, or enhance your leadership skills, Joy Hosey is the trusted guide you’ve been searching for. With her expertise and guidance, you can unlock the potential for growth, connection, and success in all aspects of your life.
“Thank you, Joy, for your unwavering support and guidance. You have truly made a significant and lasting difference in our lives, and we are forever grateful.”
~ Jarrett & Jeanne Stevens, Chicago, IL
“I feel so fortunate and blessed to have the opportunity to work with Joy. I have worked with many coaches throughout the years, and Joy tops the list! The work we’ve done, both in relationship and 1:1 coaching, has been extremely impactful. Joy seems to have an omnipresence and ability to “sense” and tune into what I am feeling, needing and expressing. Her intuition and decades of experience across so many modalities and sacred practices comes through in each interaction and I feel as though I’ve experienced thousands of years of wisdom in just an hour or two! Simply put, Joy is a gift for me as an individual and as a partner. The tools and skills I’m learning are providing the foundation needed to have the most vital, rich, loving and meaningful relationships possible. “
~ Bridget L., San Francisco, CA
“Intimacy is demanding. It demands sincerity, vulnerability, and effort but even that is not enough. Successful intimacy between two romantic partners requires of them self-awareness, insight, and communication tools. Those who think they can do it on their own are the same people who have no idea they sat in melted chocolate, have toilet paper stuck to their shoe, or lettuce on their teeth. It takes another to help us see what we are missing. If that person can do so lovingly, effectively, and efficiently so much the better.
“After a traumatic childhood, decades of life, and two divorces I have been through hours and hours of therapy, some more effective than others. We went to Joy not to fix a marriage or take one apart, but to learn how intimacy can create relational joy, can teach us about ourselves in relationships of all types, and to clarify our intentions in the current relationship. She used a variety of tools and frameworks to help us see our attachment styles, personality structures, communication mis-matches, and protective mechanisms honed in childhood. More practical were tools for repairing ruptures and using the repair to build deeper trust and further intimacy. All of this in just a few sessions, not the grueling years of return one sometimes expects.
“Joy will discretely and lovingly help you see that a bird pooped in your hair, so you may want her help for a moment to work on that.”
~ Carey J., Seattle, WA
“Joy is unique in couples coaching — we consider her an ‘expert of experts’. We’ve studied and experienced many of the so-called experts, who are excellent yet are one-tracked in their signature approaches. Joy, refreshingly, has it all: the dexterity to choose the best strategy to enable exploration of the given situation, and a remarkable capacity to go deep with us while teaching us tools to use on our own. If you’re serious about connected and conscious couplehood, consider yourself fortunate if Joy is your guide.”
~ Lauren & Brad, Los Angeles
“Joy profoundly transformed not only our relationships with each other but also with ourselves. At the most challenging point in our 25-year marriage, she introduced us to a framework that illuminated the core dynamics holding us back. Through her clear, firm, yet deeply compassionate guidance, we worked both individually and as a couple to rebuild our connection and grow in ways that felt deeply personal and portable. Joy’s approach, grounded in relational life therapy, was unlike anything we’d experienced before—she balanced impartial listening with brave, honest intervention, even taking sides when needed. This gave us a shared language to address our issues with clarity and responsibility, free from blame.
“Joy is whip-smart, courageous, and deeply insightful. She holds you accountable while offering tools to connect, grow, and navigate conflict. Her ability to synthesize information and offer perspective pushed us to see ourselves and each other in ways we never had before. Thanks to her, our relationship is unrecognizable in the best way—something visibly palpable to everyone around us. Even now, 15 months later, we continue to seek her counsel because the growth she has fostered is transformative and enduring. I cannot recommend Joy enough for anyone seeking real, lasting change in their relationships and themselves.”
~ Caneel R., Manhattan Beach, CA
“Working with Joy Hosey has completely changed my life. I have worked with Joy for over 8 years. In that time, we have explored the deep recesses of my mind and heart. Joy has consistently advocated and modeled self-responsibility in such a way that I have become a more self-responsible person, capable of stepping out of my reactionary mind, and claim a new way of being that is in alignment with my wise adult self. The work I have done with Joy has helped me clear deep negative conditioning, outdated patterns, and self-limiting beliefs. With her support I have become a new person that embodies an energy state of consciousness that is in alignment with my goals and my greatest success. I shudder to think where I would be without her support and guidance. I can’t recommend her work highly enough.”
~ M.A., Ashland, OR
“Joy has helped to not only save my most significant relationship; she has also saved me from myself. All of my life my internal narratives have made me miserable with shame, fear, anger, and sadness. Joy’s discovery and coaching sessions have helped me to honor and accept those emotions, which has cleared the way for happiness and deep satisfaction. She held the space that we needed to become more fully ourselves, clarifying our deepest desires and commitments, and giving us the tools to have true emotional intelligence. I am beyond grateful.”
~ John O, Ashland, OR
“Working with Joy has been an ongoing experience of profound collaboration. Joy has incredible mastery over many different modalities and she intuitively curates and creates sessions in response to what is present. She flows effortlessly between healing modalities, energy medicine, and conscious commitments.
My partner and I began working with Joy at a point of extreme rupture in our relationship. She created space for us to mourn, grieve, and rage, while helping us to cultivate connection in those moments by using contexts through which we could take radical responsibility for each of our lives, rather than being at the effect of past experiences. Joy gave us tools to see how the patterns in our relationship were directly related to our self-relation and moves to shift when we notice going into those habitual states.
I used to go through life as an angry victim and an overcommitted, martyred hero who derived my identity from being vigilant, looking for problems to solve and creating drama. Through Joy’s teaching and coaching I have come to see how my fears and avoidances were recreating patterns from my past and recycling old drama over and over. The biggest shift I feel after working with Joy is being able to honor and tune in deeply to my vast emotional and bodily intelligence without being totally at the effect of my feelings and letting them run the show. She has also modeled and coached me on taking things more lightly, which is a huge shift for me, as I was committed to seeing everything as a problem. My partner and I have learned and developed a practice of clearing and moving our energy with each other, which is vulnerable and connective rather than dumping, projecting, blaming, or withdrawing like we used to, and these shifts have utterly transformed our relationship. My relationship to myself and everyone in my life is so much clearer and I am conscious of my agency in my life creation.
Through her creative genius, practical strategies, sense of play, and wealth of spiritual wisdom, Joy opens up a space of deep healing for her clients. I am so grateful to Joy for this incredible work”
~ Marika W, Massachusetts
“Joy is an extraordinary relationship coach. Her clarity and spaciousness, combined with a fierce loving devotion to what I would call, living truth (truth that is present in the field but is not held as conclusion), create the space for true transformation to occur. The highest proof of her integrity is reflected in her own relationship, which is obviously sustained through deep love and respect. Joy is a great resource for both my patients and myself. She is the only relationship coach/therapist that I feel truly wholehearted in recommending. Whether in dire need of a relationship over haul, desiring a deepening of an already soulful intimacy or in supporting a loving conscious uncoupling, I can honestly say, I know no one better qualified or more skillful.”
~ Dr Ajana Miki
“Joy saved our marriage. When we first started working with her, we could hardly look at each other and the only path forward seemed to be as gracious a parting as possible. Joy coached us through the journey of letting go, moving apart and along the way, somehow helped us to find what we needed to rebuild our marriage into something that could be nourishing and transformative. She helped us to find ourselves and each other, and together we are creating a life based on honesty, compassion and caring. I wasn’t sure that was possible. Turns out it is. We are both very grateful.”
~ Sheila C., Ashland OR
“I found Joy when I was in need of learning to be more at peace with myself, she offered me not only the deep dive into the roots of my challenge but the loving strong presence I was needing. The perfect person to hold your hand and guide you when you cannot see where you are going or you have lost your way.”
~ Kyle Mercer, Venice Beach, CA
“Joy has been a blessing in my life. I have seen her on my own for individual sessions as well as with my partner and have seen my life up-level in every way. She has an intuition as a coach that guides our sessions past the surface level conflicts to uncover the blocks that prevent us from reaching our true potential. If you have any inclination towards self-sabotage in your personal life habits or in relationship I am confident that Joy will become your ally in navigating out of those unwanted patterns.”
~ Michael Hodgin, Ashland, OR
“My experience with Joy Hosey as a couples guide for my partnership has offered my partner & I applicable, simple & fun tools to apply to our daily life that have transformed what I viewed as wounds that may never heal into strengths. Strengths that have deepened my connection to my partner as well as myself & my intricate interpersonal weavings that make up who I am, allowing me to offer forth my authentic truth in my intimate relationships, which then translates my authentic self to all of my relationships.”
~ Oona J. Meade, Ashland, OR
“Whenever my husband and I experience growth pains or encounter tough challenges that we know are an opportunity for growth and healing, we reach out to Joy to guide us. Joy has a unique way of speaking to the male heart and we find that she can reach the masculine in a practical and heart centered way. I, as the female, also feel deeply heard and understood in my own struggle for safety and connection. There have been times when we have walked in with a conflict that seems so much bigger than what we can resolve on our own, and when we have left the office, we have been able to embrace in the love and compassion that comes from deeply seeing and understanding each other. Joy has lent the hand that has enabled us to return to the love that is our WE. If you are wanting deeper connection with your partner and feel at a loss for the ways you’ve tried on your own to ‘bridge the gab’ then see Joy. She is able to identify and unearth the core wounds that stand in the way. Another thing I love about working with Joy is she gives us practical tools to use to create our own container of trust so we can navigate issues on own. Her tools are so useful for shifting energy and allowing us to heal, both as individuals and as couples. We are so grateful for the time we have had with Joy and hope many more will be able to benefit from her wisdom and truth.”
~ Jenifer K., Ashland, OR
“I have been amazed at the deep insights that Joy has helped me to discover. She showed up in our sessions with a combination of compassionate partnership along with fierce emotional intelligence. The practical homework gave me tools to work with on an ongoing basis. I recommend her guidance for anyone who wants a great ally in life and relationship!”
Bayla G., Mt. Shasta, CA
“Joy has an amazing way of being both grounded (in heart and body) and intuitive! My partner and I both felt very much cared for and supported as she help us notice and work through challenges. Neither of us got away with anything but we both walked out grateful for it! Joy walks her talk and is unparalleled in her ability to hold space for couples to thrive.”
~ Amber L., Ashland, OR
“Joy has in a very short time given me tools which work right away. That alone makes her approach worthy of high praise! I experienced 3 other therapists before Joy. Neither of them could match her ability to really connect to the issue and at the same time provide a detailed path of earnest progression towards resolve. She has helped me to become a truly a happier person.”
~ Eric D., Los Angeles, CA
“Transitioning out of a relationship, I came to Joy in the midst of great personal pain. Joy coached me through new levels of insight and introduced me to a new way of being in an intentional relationship. As a result, I can now say that I now recognize my painful break-up as a gift- a perspective that I could not have arrived at on my own. Joy draws from practical tools as well as a deep knowing and intuition that have me leaving each session feeling deeply met. If you are ready to commit to radically shifting old patterns, Joy is a wonderful guide.”
~ Crystal M., Talent OR
“I particularly appreciated Joy’s work with me around core feeling states. For me, this was the next important step in my personal evolution. As a result, working with Joy has undeniably improved my relationships with others and myself, in both personal and professional realms.”
~ Rachel S., Medford, OR
“Seeing Joy has proven to be the best investment we’ve ever made for our relationship. She is brilliant, intuitive, and has a knack for illuminating one’s own knowing. She continues to show us how to elevate our already-solid relationship through simple practices and clear communication. If there is one thing we have learned through our work with her, it is how to achieve and maintain a thriving intimacy. Please, own your experience and go see Joy!”
~ Matt & Renea Prell, Ashland OR
“It is truly a gift to work with Joy! One of the greatest surprises of my work with her has been the depth and healing that is possible during a 90-minute phone session. Joy is able to hold space, bear witness to and offer me invaluable tools in such a clear way, that after each session I feel closer to knowing myself as who I truly am. It is deep and healing and joy-filled work. It has contributed to me creating more loving relationships and having a more satisfied experience of my life overall. Our work together has far exceeded my (high!) expectations.”
~ Eleni L., Oakland, CA
“I have seen Joy for coaching periodically for almost a year. I can count on her to show up with exactly what I need to help me clarify the issues at hand in my own heart and mind, and then to begin to process and heal using her deep insight, intuition, wisdom and experience, always leaving me with useful tools, optimism, and excitement about the new path forward.”
~ Bram L., Ashland, OR
“Having never really explored the “tools” that Joy works with with before, I instantly realized upon coming into her space and practice that I was in the presence of a phenomenal facilitator of healing and re-connection within ones own self and in personal relationships at all levels. I honestly feel blessed to have come into contact with such an insightful and intuitive guide right here in my own community and I would recommend anyone with any level of desire, experience or practice in seeking a greater knowing to give Joy a visit. You will be glad you did.”
~ Luke Frazer, Talent, Oregon
“You really have a gift for holding space and allowing what is there to come forth gently, in its own way and time. I sometimes imagine a “coach” will give me goals to set, or be directive, but in our time together, I didn’t feel that from you. Your guidance was wonderful and right on, but most of all, you helped create a magic that connected me to my own guidance.”
~ Danielle Hickney, Bayside, CA